Do’s and Don’ts of Gift-Giving

There are no fixed rules for the do’s and don’ts of gift-giving. These rules vary from culture to culture and person to person. The following are my personal opinions and are not necessarily universally accepted.

Do’s in Gift-Giving:

1. Set a Budget:
   Make sure you fix a budget before searching for gifts. There isn’t a fixed amount to spend on a gift, but there are simple guidelines to consider. For example, presents for birthdays and weddings are often different.
2. Be Culturally Sensitive:
   Ensure your gift is thoughtful while keeping cultural barriers and preferences in mind.
3. Follow Corporate Policies:
   In corporate or professional settings, check the company’s gift-giving policy to avoid accusations of bribery or negative feedback.
4. Be Intentional:
   I would prefer not to give anything rather than giving something thoughtless or out of obligation. Every present should be thoughtful and intentional.
5. Consider the Recipient’s Preferences:
   Take into account the recipient’s choices and needs, even for colleagues. For example, if you’re giving a gift for business purposes, research the recipient so your efforts are appreciated.
6. Reciprocate When Appropriate:
   In many cultures, reciprocation is highly valued. Failing to reciprocate could make you seem ungrateful.
7. Add a Handwritten Note:
   Always include a handwritten note—formal for acquaintances and informal for close ones.
8. Wrap Your Gifts Well:
   Always present gifts in proper wrapping to show respect, no matter the recipient.
9. Opt for Personalized Items:
   Whenever possible, choose personalized items. Though it requires extra endeavor, it’s worth it.
10. Plan Thoughtfully:
    While thought and intention matter most, some people prefer gifts of equal value. Research before re-gifting. For someone you know well, surprise gifts work great; otherwise, ask for their preferences to avoid giving something useless.
11. Prioritize Experiences Over Things:
    If possible, prioritize giving experiences rather than physical items. Experiences create lasting memories.

Don’ts in Gift-Giving:

1. Avoid Personal Items in Professional Settings:
   In business and professional contexts, avoid gifts that are too personal or humorous, such as wine, perfume, or letters.
2. Don’t Overdo Branding:
   Avoid excessive branding on gifts, as not everyone appreciates it.
3. Think Beyond Flowers and Gift Cards:
   I think giving flowers and gift cards is thoughtless and a sign of neglect. Though popular among colleagues, business partners, funerals, and congratulatory occasions, they often reflect a lack of effort. (Note: I do love flowers.)
4. Think About the Recipient:
   Don’t focus on what you like to give; instead, think about what they would love to receive.
5. Be Cautious with Monetary Gifts:
   Don’t give monetary gifts without confirming their appropriateness. Money is acceptable at weddings and funerals in some countries, but it might offend others.
6. Avoid Black Wrapping:
   Generally, black wrapping is best avoided, as it is associated with bad luck, evil, or death in many cultures. However, I find black classy and elegant.
7. Don’t Go Overboard:
   Consider the nature of your relationship and your level of closeness with the recipient.